![]() ![]() It had everything to do with how I was feeling about my life at the time. My comparison actually had nothing to do with what had happened (or NOT happened) in my life so far. Maybe I’d focused on the wrong things after graduation, or maybe I just wasn’t meant to have the things that seemed to come so easily to other people.īut that wasn’t it at all. I thought the reason I felt this way was because I was doing something wrong. Hitting milestones earlier, climbing the ranks with more ease, figuring things out faster, leaving me in the dust wondering, “How did I fall so far behind?” It felt like, everywhere I looked, people were progressing faster than me. I’ll admit, I used to feel weighed down by the “I’m so behind in life!” mentality, too. One that’s true and accurate and takes into account what deeply matters. So because we’re all human, which means we’re not going to be able to live in a bubble and stop comparing ourselves to other people, let’s come up with a new way of measuring our progress. (Trust me on this one - I’ve coached a lot of those people, and I know what’s going on under the surface of that carefully curated Instagram feed!) Many of the people you see with all of the external things aren’t necessarily happy and content with their lives. So, because we don’t have clear indicators of measuring progress anymore - the way we did when we were in school - we end up comparing how “behind” we are based on external things we can see, like promotions, marriages, kids, houses, and other external mile markers.īut we forget that these factors are completely irrelevant. Then, after high school or college, we start going off on different paths, and the comparison about “who’s ahead” and “who’s behind” starts to gets murky. We’re among peers, growing and going through the same milestones at the same general pace. While we’re in school, our paths are mostly laid out for us. ![]() For the first 18 (or more) years of our lives, we’re all pretty much on the same trajectory. It makes sense why so many of us are feeling this way. WHAT’S GOING ON TO MAKE US ALL FEEL LIKE WE’RE FALLING BEHIND? If you see someone else living out your dream career and you’re still stuck at the same old company, it can make you feel behind. When you scroll through social media and see all of your high school friends posting baby pictures, it can make you feel behind. When your colleagues all have mortgages and you’re still renting a tiny apartment, it can make you feel behind. If your friends start getting married while you’re still single, it can make you feel behind. But feeling behind can spill into every area of your life. She was referring to feeling behind in her career, which is something I hear all the time from my clients (regardless of their age). “I feel like at my age, I’m SO far behind and need to be insanely productive every single day.” A client of mine recently wrote to me saying: ![]()
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